There is no reality; only perception. Identify the filters through which you view the world. This law suggest that whatever happens in your life it is up to you how you interpret it. The way you interpret it will determine the meaning or value that you give it. Being unique individual your perceptions are unique. Failure to recognize this may cause problems. The ‘in congruency of perceptions’ can lead to frustration and confusion. The key point is that where our perceptions are concerned you have the ability to choose differently from what you are currently choosing if you wish. If you continue to view the world through a filter created by past events then you is allowing your past to control and dictate both your present and your future. People do not see themselves in a realistic and objective light and thus are not ready to be accountable for what they do. The difficulty with the filters is that they are made up of fixed beliefs a negative belief so entrenched in your thinking as to be a fixed part of your perceptual system. As a result you stop seeking or receiving and processing new information and take that belief as a fact.
Life is managed, it is not cured. Learn to take charge of your life and hold on. Life is not without problems and challenges. They are good things as they build character, make you appreciate pleasure, and bring opportunities. But the fact is they have to be managed. The reason being that it is not so much the particular circumstance that upsets the person involved as it is the violation of his or her expectation. You can help yourself as a life manger if your ‘expectancy set’ about your life is realistic rather than naïve. Being the life manager of your life means that you constantly evaluate yourself through a result-abased assessment taking into account how you avoid foolish risks, utilize your skills, create opportunities, take care of yourself and your relations and keep you fresh and young and give you a balanced life. This life law is very much similar to addiction and recovery, in such a way that addiction is not cured it is always managed. If you start working on it you will ultimately working on your recovery.
We Teach People How to Treat Us. Own, rather than complain about, how people treat you. Learn to renegotiate your relationships to have what you want. This law deals with how you define your relationships and how you get results. Because people learn by results, whether or not you reward, accept, or validate their behavior impacts their conduct and influences their subsequent choices. Relationships are mutually defined: it is a give-and-take negotiation. Therefore, if you don’t like the deal, don’t blame just your partner. You have ownership of that relationship just as much as he or she does. Whoever your relationship partners may be you have taught them the rules and you have taught them the boundaries of the relationship. You teach them by either actively rewarding their destructive relationship behavior or by passively allowing them to persist in that behavior. This life law develop the skill that how make ourselvestreat. In rehab it becomes difficult for people to cope with the title of rehab. But it is up to us that how we will act differently that people will treat us differently, better than before.
Amina Javed, Clinical Psychologist